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2 June 2017

How Can I Help My Grandson To Be Happy?

Hello Della, It sounds like you all being under the same roof is causing a lot of friction. You and your husband are trying to get through your divorce and ...
11 April 2017

Is It Ok To Grieve For A Pet?

Hi Jasmine, It’s completely normal to grieve over a pet that has passed away. Pets are one of the family and love you without judgement like people often do, so sometimes ...
7 April 2017

Why Won't My Partner Help Me With The Cleaning?

Hi Paige, It's possible that if he grew up in a house where his mum or sister cleaned that he expects the same from you. If you would like it ...
6 April 2017

Should I Contact Her After 30 Years To Say Sorry?

Hi Stu, Perhaps the reason you have not put this to bed is because she said she would think about what you had every day and maybe you are still doing ...
30 March 2017

Am I Being Controlling In My Relationship?

Hi Catherine, It is understandable that you are uneasy about your partner meeting up with her ex, but even more so when she has caused some upset in your relationship in ...
30 March 2017

How Can I Stop My Friend Controlling Our Friendship Group?

My first piece of advice would be to talk to someone the next time you are angry with them rather than text. There is no sense of tone or any ...
30 March 2017

Why Can't I Control My Attraction For My Married Guy Friend?

You have taken the first step by admitting that you know it’s wrong. Well, I say that, it’s not wrong to be attracted to him. But you clearly believe that ...
30 March 2017

Why Do I Try To Control My Boyfriend?

Hi Ashleigh, It sounds like you believe you have a good thing and want to hold onto it tight. There is nothing wrong with appreciating what you have, which can ...
23 February 2017

Why Is My Partner Texting Sex Workers?

Hi Anonymous, Although you say that the relationship seems perfect, there is usually some doubt in the partnership. This will cause us to act suspiciously. I’m assuming this is not ...
22 February 2017

How Can I Stop My Partner Moving Out?

Hi Buttercup, It does sound like the arrangement is taking its toll on your relationship. This begs the question, if the situation is unlikely to alter any time soon- is ...
13 February 2017

Why Does My Husband Prefer To Play On His Computer Than Spend Time With Me?

Yin / Tyler Men and women think differently about situations such as this. Men think about providing for the home, so by working, he feels he has filled his quota ...
13 February 2017

My Boyfriend Has Naked Pictures Of His Ex On His Computer, Am I Allowed To Be Upset?

Hi Selina, It must have been alarming to find naked pictures of a woman on your partner's computer but it sounds like you felt an extra jolt when you realised ...
6 February 2017

How Can I Get Past The Guilt Of My Break-Up?

Hi Catalina,  Firstly I would ask you the reasons why you want him back when you admit you were miserable with him, and all he did was irritate you? I suspect ...
6 February 2017

Why has he asked for space while I'm sick?

Hi Margaret, Your partner should be with you in sickness and in health, whether you have exchanged vows or not. It is one of the unwritten rules of relationships; he should ...
24 January 2017

Why don't I believe my boyfriend when he compliments me?

Hi Georgia, If you are still haunted by the comments from pervious boyfriends when they said things to your face and something different behind your back, this will inevitably impact ...
20 January 2017

I've got a talent for making music- what should I do about it?

Hi Damonte, I would suggest putting some of your work on You Tube. A lot of artists have been discovered this way- take Justin Bieber for example and look how successful ...
20 January 2017

Should I serenade him with my music?

Hi Jay, If you talked about the singing thing before he said he didn’t want it to go any further, then perhaps this would not bring him back to you. It ...
12 January 2017

How can I stop people laughing at my ginger hair?

You are absolutely right- your hair colour should not matter at all. Only 1-2% of people around the world have red hair which makes you distinctive and perhaps different from ...
9 January 2017

Will my partner always be selfish?

Hi Deb, Money is the catalyst for fights in many a relationship, especially when it is about a lot of money. Put the deposit aside- the contribution to your bills ...
15 December 2016

Why do I feel numb at Christmas?

Hi Leonie, Christmas means different things to different people. Some like to take things to the excess and drink, eat and spend lots just because they can, others see it ...
15 December 2016

Should I leave my partner before or after Christmas?

Hi Matthew, Rather than making plans to leave- could some relationship counselling help you to sort this new phase of your relationship out? If you could be happier if the ...
15 December 2016

Who should I spend Christmas with?

Hi Kelsey, Christmas is always a difficult time to keep everyone happy all the time and all you can do is work with what you have.  If your partner is already working ...
9 December 2016

I kissed my friend's boyfriend, should I tell my partner?

Hi Gabby, It sounds like it hasn't affected your friend's relationship, so we could assume that he hasn't told her. It doesn't seem to have affected your prospects of finding ...

7 December 2016

Is my marriage in trouble?

Hi Marcus, Thank you for getting in touch. It sounds like you have grown apart to such an extent that you feel you can't ask him the questions you are ...
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